Today, I have another post from the great Tonya from Budget and the Beach. Enjoy!!
I’m sitting here on the spare bedroom floor at my dad’s house, after a fun-filled (and extremely tiring and long) evening spent at my college roommate’s wedding.
The two weeks I’ve been in Detroit have been well spent. A lot of people asked me why I was coming back to Detroit for so long, considering most of my trips in my eighteen years away from here have been 4-5 days at the most.
I had trouble answering that question, until now…because I think the answer only came to me at the end of my trip: to get perspective on my own life. And perspective is exactly what I’ve gotten.
We spend our days wrapped up in our own heads about the good, bad, and ugly of our daily existence. Although routine can be good, being stuck in a doldrums is not. And it may be time to shake things up.
I think that’s how I was feeling about my life in LA lately. Is there more out there? Should I move? Shouldn’t I have accomplished this, this, and that in life? Is everyone out there living this happy, blissful life? Should I be making more money? Should I have a better career? Relationship? Ahhh, so many questions!
Don’t get me wrong, I am very satisfied with my life, save for a few hiccups, like my career. But I don’t think you can fully appreciate it until you step outside the box, and hear other stories that will drive you to make changes to your own life, or be grateful for what you have.
I don’t want to throw anyone under the bus, so I have to tread very lightly here, but in my time in Detroit I’ve been around both college friends and high school friends, as well as my own family.
As I settled into my conversations with my friends (and the drinks began to flow), I started to hear a common theme…that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE has something they are dealing with.
That friend that might have a great job that pays well, is dealing with an unsatisfying marriage, and feels stuck.
That friend that has a lot of money and goes on fabulous trips (that make you jealous when you see the pics on Facebook), is dealing with a chronic, debilitating illness.
That friend that “appears to have everything,” is completely unraveling and is putting on a facade of happiness.
(By the way these examples are only “based” on real stories I heard, not specific people)
When I started hearing these stories I felt two things: one is that you are not alone in having a struggle. And two, that some of my problems felt minor in comparison, and that I really did have a great life!
It brings me to mentioning one of the most important things you need to have in your life: gratitude. I would go so far as to say it’s important to write what you’re grateful for down, because often times when you’re feeling sad, you need concrete proof that your life is pretty great.
Change, turmoil, curve balls, highs, lows, etc., happen to every single person on this planet. So if you’re one of those people who is feeling the weight of debt, a crushing job loss, or struggling to make ends meet, its important to do the things necessary to make positive changes to fix it, but make sure you take stock of the positives in your life.
Maybe you have a significant other to help shoulder the weight of debt (and help pay it off twice as fast), or have great friends to help you through the tough times, or great health…know that there is something good in your life, and that as the famous saying goes, “the grass is always greener…”
What are you grateful for right now?