I have a problem. A real big problem. Its something that I have been struggling with for a while now and a few of you may laugh when I tell you. My problem is basically not knowing how to chill the f*ck out and take things as they come. I know it sounds silly, doesn’t it? I feel comforted in knowing that many people have this problem but I also know that I take it to the extreme sometimes and it affects my sleeping, eating habits, and my general well-being. No bueno at all.
I have always been one of these people who had a hard time accepting things–especially when it meant accepting something I didn’t like. I would spend hours of the day trying to formulate ways to make the situation better in an effort to make myself feel better. This is a habit I still do today even though I have been frequently told that this type of thinking will usually only make me feel worse. I have been trying to make an effort to just try and “go with it” even though there are aspects of my life I want to see change. This has to do with my current employment and financial situation. There are so many things that I want to be doing like further paying down debt but I have to learn and “chill” or it will surely drive me nuts. I want to do this and that and then get frustrated when it doesn’t happen. Was there ever a better recipe for failure?
My boyfriend has echoed my feelings and we both have had to remind ourselves that we are doing pretty darn good for two people in their 20′s. We still don’t have that much debt, we own a home, and we have savings so we must be doing something right. Recently, we sat down and went over our monthly expenditures and realized there really wasn’t much more we could cut since we have been living pretty frugally. We agreed to cut down on some of the eating out and he agreed to take most of lunches to work with him everyday. I have to say I was a little disappointed that we couldn’t cut out more but once again, I had to take a step back and say “chill.” I personally cannot live like a total pauper just to save a few pennies. I would go ballistic within days! I have to remind myself that things are fine already and we are just trying to save a little more. Its crazy how quickly you can get in the “I’m broke” mindset when its not true.
Have you ever had a problem similar to this? If so, let me know in the comments.